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The truth behind “excuses”…

“I’m not pretty or handsome enough.” “No one likes me.” “I don’t have enough money.” “I’m not ready.” These are just a few examples of common excuses that have ability to hold twenty somethings back from really going for their dreams. I’ve heard them all because I tried them all. I used every excuse in the book to stay living below my potential. I was using excuses because my prior circumstances seemed hopeless. I was ready to give up and had a prepared response for everyone that questioned this once over-achieving college grad as to why I felt defeated and drained. The truth is success is a lifestyle. It a result of repeated habits.  It’s small changes that add up to big change. I chose soul-sucking work because I gave up on my dream. What is the ONE thing you’d be doing which you’d immensely enjoy if you know you could not fail? If you want a job, house, title, etc. You are going to have to have a no-excuse approach to fulfilling your dreams. …

How to live a balanced life while battling depression

The pressure is on for twenty somethings which is why more than 20 percent have either been diagnosed or are experiencing symptoms of depression. Major depressive disorder affects approximately 14.8 million American adults, or about 6.7 percent of the U.S. population age 18 and older, in a given year. Sadly a lot of people choose to ignore the symptoms out of shame, guilt, or pride. However as you can see the numbers speak for themselves. So why are misconceptions still surrounding depression? When I changed my major from biochemistry to psychology during my sophomore year of college; my goal was to become a licensed counselor and help people who were hurting or struggling to resolve the issues in their lives. Over the course of my studies there were many days where I imagined what the people would be like that I would serve.  I would love to say that I was a model citizen and was able to ignore the blatantly ignorant stigma’s surrounding mental health. However I found myself imagining potential clients as disheveled, …

6 questions to ask yourself when you feel ‘stuck’ in your career

Car didn’t start this morning… Lost your wallet… Didn’t get the job you want… Whatever it is that your battling. Life’s discontentment has the power to leave us all feeling helpless and sometimes ‘stuck.’ One of the biggest mistakes we make is relying on our minds to tell us who we during those moments. I know you’re thinking, “Well my mind knows what I want.” However, I beg to differ. Your biggest enemy can be your thoughts. What you think you ultimately become. Once you start to believe something it impacts your thoughts and your thoughts impact your actions. The reason for this is because your subconscious has a “safety zone.” According to acclaimed financial guru Dave Ramsey our minds have comfort levels. He explains in, Total Money Makeover, that that is why it is hard to make a change. Your brain learns your patterns and if you decide to take a new job or lose weight you may not get the boost you need from your thoughts. That is why reinforcement is crucial and by …