All posts tagged: thrive

Failure is delay, not defeat

Success takes time, and for these and other reasons, many people give up on their dreams at the slightest resistance. Maybe things didn’t go right the first time around or the way you planned. The truth is the beginning stages are always the hardest. When you’re having a tough time in life, it can be hard to see the good in any situation.  You start to believe that nothing can change, and you begin to feel ‘stuck.’ Maybe things didn’t work out the way you expected. Perhaps the right opportunities never came along. Failure leads to multiple learning opportunities that help us become who we are. Feeling ‘stuck’ comes from a place of fear and limits. When you say, “yes,” to your limits, you are saying “no” to your possibilities. Choose to be empowered by failure instead of weakened by it. It is better to endure hardships live a life you desire than to live a forced life. Failure appears to have more of an impact on our lives based on what we believe.  By …

Why habits are the invisible architecture of success

If you feel like you’re constantly ‘putting out fires’ in your daily life and unable to meet expectations todays post is for you. I used to wonder how some people get ahead of others and it simply boils down to habits. Habits are behaviors we perform on a daily or otherwise regular basis. They’re not just any behaviors, though. A behavior is a habit if some component of it is at least somewhat “automatic.” Some studies estimate that habits make up 40% of our everyday behavior. With a habit, there’s some cue that triggers a behavior. Habits are not routines but more like coping mechanisms that we have put in place to subconsciously produce a dopamine like appeal in our day. We’re not about judging habits. However, if you have specific goals in mind that you have put effort into but are not producing  results, it is recommended that your habits be the first place to look for signs of trouble. What are you doing to achieve your goals? If there is something that you …

Signs you’re ready for entrepreneurship

Maybe you’re at work right now wishing you were anywhere else. Not because you don’t need the income but you have a desire burning in you to do what you love. Social media can be a catalyst as it easy to scroll to a feed of someone seemingly living their best life with their free time.  Many of us aspire to entrepreneurship because we see it as a gateway to doing what you love. However, entrepreneurship can be one of the toughest jobs out there. As the saying goes, you have to be prepared to work 80 hours instead of 40 to make a business work. A lot more goes into being an entrepreneur than having a dream. That is why being a dreamer is tough. We want to achieve but we are creatives and can often get stuck over analyzing our steps. We just want to show the world what we can do. But, you ha e to ask yourself, is it something the world needs right now? I was prepared to launch my …

How to go from navigating passion to choosing a career

There is no way to know what you’ll be doing forever. Of course, most people have a dream career but sometimes our dream career choice isn’t right for our personality. According to a Gallup poll, 30-57 percent of college freshman change their major at least twice before graduation. The same goes for people and their first job. Millennials now have an average tenure of 1-3 years at their first place of employment. Is this a lack of direction or passion? Only we can decide what we are lacking. Ultimately it’s not a bad thing to job hop even if you went to college or university seeking a specialty. The ‘F’ in life stands for flexibility and that includes our interests as we evolve into fully formed people. Use college as a tool to explore your options. Talk to an advisor and take courses that ignite your passions. It is important to have a major chosen but don’t beat yourself up if you can not decide on a career right away. If you’ve determined secondary education …

Why you should forgive yourself for past mistakes

Dwelling in the past requires an insurmountable amount of energy that only leads to repeat occurrences. What you think about the most will become a reality. Our thoughts drive our actions. Dwelling on your past can keep you from making any kind of progress. No matter what stage you are at in life, you can still have a successful future. If you are constantly replaying past events looking for new ways to solve them then you’re missing out on opportunities. An opportunity presents itself daily. And not in the form of a fairy godmother granting wishes just you and the willpower to live your life on your terms. Bottom line: You have the power to achieve, create, and become the vision you have for your life, self and career.  Everything is on the table. No dream is off limits.  Stop being a victim of your high expectations and the events that you can never change. Not because you’re not awesome but because there is no going back. Heartbreak, disappointment, and failures can leave us all …

How to stay ahead while unemployed

Here are three tips to help you keep your life on track while unemployed: Tip #1) Write out your plan for recovery. If your goal is to become a chef, you should write all the steps necessary to complete it. For example: Step 1: Go to culinary school. Step 2: Upon graduation get employment as a sous chef. Writing the action steps down on paper makes your dream more tangible and creates a clear path for you to follow. Each time you have completed a step mark it out. This physical cue if marking out a step will make you feel closer to your goals. By doing this you can reward yourself and see that you are still making progress towards your dream even when life has made it seem impossible. Tip #2) Don’t let your pride get in the way. Reaching out for help will not make you weak or your friends and family feel that you’re no longer dependable. If someone close to you chooses to not be there for you, don’t be angry. …

3 things you can do to feel more happiness right now | Q&A

Q&A Friday is here, as a part of the ongoing series this month. Today’s question comes from Maddie in Dallas, TX and it completely fit my mood. Lately I have been going through a lot and having been feeling hopeless. For a few days I feared that nothing would improve. Read Maddies’s question and my response below. I provide her and you 3 things you can do today to feel happiness. So, let’s jump right in: Q: Im having a hard time feeling happy. After losing my job and my relationship with my fiancé my life changed, but not for the better. I was able to find a new job but I hate it and it’s less pay which has deepened my financial hole. I feel like giving up and nothing I do will help. How can I feel happy with all of this going on and move on?  A: Maddie, you do have a lot going on and thank you sharing. It’s a brave thing to tell someone how hard you have it right …