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Failure is a delay, not defeat…

Failure is delay, not defeat.

Success takes time and for these and other reasons a lot people give up on their dreams because the beginning stages are always the hardest.

When you’re having a tough time in life it can be hard to see the good in any situation. You start to believe that nothing can change and you begin to feel ‘stuck.’ Maybe things didn’t work out the way you expected. The right opportunities never came along. It doesn’t matter the reason, what matters is that that reason is what’s holding you back. Failure leads to multiple learning opportunities to becoming who you are meant to be.

Feeling ‘stuck’ comes from a place of fear and limits. You are start to fear failure an avoid situations where failure is a possibility. Such as applying for a new job or avoiding serious commitment. When you say, “yes,” to your limits you are saying “no” to your possibilities.  Choose to be empowered by failure instead of weakened by it.  It is better to endure hardships live a life you desire than to live a forced life.

steve-jobs-top-quotes-3Failure appears to have more of an impact towards our lives based on what we believe. By true definition failure is the result of the expectations we have over our lives not being met or a person or obstacle preventing us from making progress. However research and Steve Jobs have proven that success is built conducted failure. According to Reut Schwartz-Hebron, founder of the Key Change Institute — an organization that focuses on workplace behavior it is first necessary “to rewire your brain” by creating new experiences and engaging two different cerebral systems; the explicit and the implicit memory.*

After all you have to have a self awareness of what you’ve done wrong in order to get it right the next time. Obstacles and challenges are meant to build strengths and identify weaknesses to make you better. If you are letting your past mistakes hinder you from making positive change I encourage to try a new perspective. Don’t be afraid of failure.

There is no way to get a perfect score on life because no one else will experience your life from your lens. Realistically there is no ‘right’ way of doing things because you are on an unique path. Success occurs when you defeat the self doubt and change the limiting beliefs that keep you ‘stuck’ on your failures.

Open your mind and accept that life will not always be fair or convenient. Success is not guaranteed it is earned.  No matter what point you are at in your life you can earn success.  Try to look at the bigger picture. What you are going through or have gone through is miniscule when compared to the rest of your life. It is your job to decide the amount of impact mistakes has on you. Bad things will happen to you. There will be missed opportunities, failed relationships, and financial troubles along the way along with a multitude of other issues that could arise. You will not always have the ability to control your outside circumstances but you can always control how you handle them.

You have to change from within. Once your perspective changes so will the world around you. It is up to you to choose to radiate from within the life you truly wish to experience. You just need to get started by taking action towards changing your mindset. A positive outlook will increase your confidence to take the action necessary to break free of the glass ceiling. I use positive affirmations to reset my mind to remain focused on taking action towards my goals while overlooking the hardships.

Believing is the fuel and self confidence is the match that can light the fire that failure and setbacks have burnt out. Just as you have faced obstacles to get where you are now, you will continue to face them. Take daily action towards overcoming the self doubt and stepping into your authentic self. Create the change you want see. There will still be difficulties but with time comes grace and with it patience brings blessings. Stay focused on your possibilities because in the end, it will be worth it. Failure is delay, not defeat.

The moment is now. A great way to break the bad habits of overanalyzing your life is to keep a gratitude journal. Each day write down one to three things you are grateful for. acknowledging your gratefulness helps extend the magnitude of your willingness to accept the abundance you are due. What are you waiting for?

*(Read the full story first reported here.)



What have you learned from your failures that has helped you in another area of your life?
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