Anger is a powerful emotion that reveals our truest feelings. Some choose to express it constructively and others destructively.
Our cultural beliefs lead us to think that every problem has a solution. When the reality is sometimes life just sucks and it’s okay to get angry about it. Anger and frustration are the results of very real and inescapable problems in our lives. Anger can be a healthy, natural response to these difficulties. However, it’s when you let the anger get out of control that it goes from being a natural, healthy emotion, to wreaking havoc in your life.
According to the American Psychological Association, “When it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life.”
This statement became my reality when I let the overwhelm of work and life to take over my emotions. I allowed my anger to lead me and I can tell you it was not constructive.
Sometimes when we are in the moment we feel we must grant a reaction to whomever or whatever is causing us a temporary discomfort. We want to let that situation or person know how mad we are. We feel an instant need to unleash on whoever or whatever is stopping us from
Anger causes just as much emotional damage as depression. Yes, it is alright to express yourself, but when your expression causes damage to your reputation and the people’s egos you are unleashing it on I urge you to reconsider your approach.
There are constructive ways to express your anger, especially in a professional environment. When life’s overwhelming leaves you emotionally distressed, it can be difficult to find a way to balance it all. A good way to start is by taking control of negative emotional responses. This will enable you to find a balance and learn how to differentiate between life stress and work tasks. When you respond to stressors with anger it’s because you feel like that’s the only option left.
Here are the top 4 recommended constructive things you can do to help you get a grip on anger and help you maintain your best while working. Plus, they take less than 5 minutes!
#1 Run your wrist under cold water.
For the moments you feel anxious at work and really feel yourself about to lose it this technique can be a quick fix. Not only is it calming, it allows you time away to breathe and collect your thoughts. Your wrists are a pressure point and the cold water helps relieve tension that comes along with frustration and anger.
#2 Practice gratitude.
Reduce stress from the moment you wake up by taking 5-10 minutes to ‘settle’ into the day by practicing gratefulness. Ask yourself,”What am I thankful for?” Think about these things and make a list. Over time you will notice that the small things outweigh the everyday stressors of the workplace.
You don’t have to be a yogi or a practitioner of faith to meditate. The main benefit I have gained from meditation is how it forces you into the present. There is no set time limit for meditation but it would be helpful to dedicate a block of time daily to realign through meditation.
#5 Drink green tea.
Have a cup in the morning or afternoon and get a boost of the chemical, L-Theanine found in green tea that helps reduce anger. There are also many more great benefits to drinking green tea versus other caffeinated beverages in the afternoon, including improving sleep habits.
These techniques won’t always be practical for your situation. The best way to start to manage anger gracefully is to decide not to get upset with yourself when you are. This will only throw gasoline on the fire.
While utilizing these techniques try to also find get the ‘root’ of the anger. These are just 5 ways to help manage it during stressful times. There are other outlets to express yourself.
Let’s continue this conversation in the comments. How do you manage your anger? Share your wisdom so that others can benefit from your knowledge.
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